A Positive Attitude – The Power To Choose

erhaps the greatest power that a person possesses is the power to choose. Every day of our lives we are faced with many different kinds of choices. Mundane choices, ho hum choices such as what to wear and what to eat; what to watch on TV and which radio station to listen to. These choices are sometimes made with little thought or enthusiasm.

Other choices require soul-searching, in-depth thinking, a conscious effort, honest appraisal of a situation. Most of those types of choices are life-changing. Most situations are a matter of choice. The power of choice is inspiring.

Francois Marie Voltaire, one of France’s greatest writers and philosophers wrote these words: “life itself is a sum of all our choices. Life is all about choices.”

Each day, we are faced with coping with life and its challenges. Every day we are often faced with an important choice. How will we live the day? Will it be a good day or will we look forward to a miserable day? A positive attitude can make everyday living better. Life can become more meaningful, goals can become more attainable and the future can be more exciting and productive. A negative attitude can lead to destruction. We are either the master of our attitude – or the victim! It’s a matter of personal choice. The choice is ours.

Is your Attitude causing you problems?

You can tell that it is when…
• You don’t expect to succeed, so you’re defeated before you even start.
• You look to the future in resignation and to the past in regret.
• You always find more reasons why something won’t work than why it can.
• You’re convinced that you’re never going to get any better than you are right now.
• You believe that the glass is half empty but only temporarily, because you’re going to have even less after some evaporates

However, when your Attitude is positive…
• You feel in charge of life and ask what more can you do to make it better.
• Success is never a matter of “if,” only a matter of “when”.
• You first know that anything is possible — then you figure out how.
• You can’t wait until tomorrow because you keep getting better every day.
• You believe the glass is half full, but only temporarily, because you’ve got your order in for more, and you’re busy getting bigger glasses.

If we want to enjoy life and live it to the fullest we must learn to develop a positive attitude. A positive attitude can be powerful. It helps us to cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into our lives and makes it easier to avoid worry and negative thinking.

The Desiderata is a wonderful poem that can help encourage us to find a positive way of life.

A positive attitude can lead to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but also your whole environment and the people around you. If it is strong enough, it becomes contagious.

Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conducive to growth, expansion and success. Positive thinking is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects it usually finds.

Our attitude IS important!

It affects how we look, what we say and what we do. It affects how we feel physically, mentally and spiritually and it largely affects how successful we are in achieving our purpose and goals in life.

Tom Blandi once wrote:
“Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force.”

Not everyone accepts or believes in positive thinking. Some consider the subject as just nonsense, and others scoff at people who believe and accept it.

It is quite common to hear people say: “Think positive!” to someone who feels down and worried. Most people do not take these words seriously, as they don’t know what it really means, or they don’t consider it as useful and effective. How many people do YOU know that ever stop to think what the power of positive thinking can do?

To me, a positive thinker sees the bright side of life. Positive thinking is a state of mind, which focuses on the full half of the glass and not on the empty half. It is a mental attitude that expects positive results.

How can you develop a positive attitude that will lead you to happiness and success? Well – there are some things you can do.

• Choose to be happy. Happiness is am internal attitude, not an external situation. When you wake up in the morning make the choice to be happy. Abraham Lincoln once said that people are as happy as they make up their mind to be.

Being happy does not mean everything is perfect. It means you have decided to see beyond life’s imperfections. That is what a positive attitude is all about – seeing beyond the imperfections in people, and situations and life.

• Look at the bright side of life. I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason and I always try to apply it in every situation. Arriving at a intersection just when the light is about to turn red. Standing in line behind someone who is taking forever to pay for their groceries.

• Find reasons to smile and laugh more often. Do you take yourself too seriously? Cultivate a sense of humor and get some fun out of life.

• Have faith in yourself and in the Power of the Universe.

• Associate yourself with happy and positive people. This is of prime importance.

• Read inspiring stories.

• Read inspiring quotes.

• Repeat affirmations that inspire and motivate you. Keep them on your desk at work, on your fridge at home, in your car on the dashboard or sun visor, on your night table where you can see them just before you turn off the light.

• Visualize only what you want to have happen. Visualization activates our subconscious mind.

Visualization is a tried and true technique that helps you create the things you want in life. Creative Visualization is the art of sending an image – a picture to your subconscious mind.

Your subconscious mind creates your reality based on a number of messages you send to it. It then picks up this visualization or picture and begins creating what it sees.

The key to understanding how visualization works is to first understand that your subconscious mind does not know what is real and what is fiction. It simply creates your reality based on the image that you visualize.

So if you visualize yourself struggling, poor, unhappy, single or depressed then this is the reality that your subconscious mind creates. If you can visualize yourself as a happy, spiritual, positive person and do it enough times, it can come true.

Many people use visualization in their daily lives. I dare say most of you here today use visualization.

• Learn to meditate. Meditation is not just a method to relax the body, as some people think. It is much more than that. Its earnest performance leads to freedom from obsessing, nagging thoughts and worries, and to inner balance, peace of mind and inner strength, and may also lead to spiritual awakening and enlightenment.

Though it plays an important role in various religions and spiritual practices, meditation is actually a practice that is free from all religious connotations.

What else can you do to cultivate a positive attitude?

Be helpful – you’ll build friends fast.

Be patient – some things just necessarily take time to happen or be done right.

Do you have a positive attitude where other people are concerned? That is, are you sincerely interested in other people and their purposes and problems? Do you try to understand the other person’s point of view, how they feel and why they think, look and act as they do?

Smile. Wear a cheerful countenance at all times, and give every living creature you meet a smile. It takes less facial muscles to smile than to frown. Smile even when you answer the telephone. Believe it or not, people can hear a smile. Listen for it sometime. Smiling not only changes a facial expression, but can also make the brain produce endorphins which reduce physical and emotional pain, and give a greater sense of well-being.

Be enthusiastic! Enthusiasm fuels progress – it is the prime method of persuasion without pressure. The more enthusiasm you have the better. Enthusiasm is a magic spark that breeds success in everyone within its radius.

Be considerate of others. Be dependable. Take pride in your work, whatever it may be. As it says in the Desiderata – it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Try to see the good in all things no matter how mundane they seem to be.

But sometimes, we let ourselves get bogged down with negativity. What can we do to get rid of any negative attitudes we might have?

Believe in yourself. You are unique in this world – and so are your talents. The real secret of a successful person is the absolute confidence they have in themselves and their abilities. Enter every activity without giving mental recognition to the possibility of defeat. Concentrate on your strengths instead of your weaknesses. A positive mental attitude is rooted in clear, calm and honest self-confidence.

Care about other people. There’s no better example of a positive attitude than the Golden Rule. That is, treat people the same way you want to be treated.

Get fun out of life. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Laugh and the world laughs with you – cry and you cry alone. Studies have proven that when we laugh, there is an actual chemical change in our bodies that helps to ease pain and release stress. Laughter is a coping mechanism for the normal stress of life.

Positive Attitudes Bring About Positive Results

We’ve all heard about the power of positive thinking, and many have really tried to think positively but may not have noticed the results they desired. Read on and see how positive attitudes can bring about positive results.

A Positive Attitude Doesn’t Mean Ignoring the Obvious

Some people would like you to believe that you can change the world by merely pretending that everything is wonderful, no matter how bad your situation is. Positive thinking isn’t ignoring the obvious, but ignoring the obvious can be detrimental and demoralizing.

Positive attitude is instead, a process of finding something positive in every situation, even the bleakest. Looking at the positive side will usually allow you the clarity of thought to find new ways to move out of bad situations into better ones, and eventually to good or great situations. Conversely, looking at the negative side of a situation blocks creativity and thought, and generally leads to more negative situations.

Benefits to a Positive Attitude

Positive thinking brings about benefits that you wouldn’t at first imagine. A mental attitude that expects good or favorable results helps mould our behavior towards activities that create a positive environment. Generally, a positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and success in whatever endeavor you attempt. When you do encounter less than favorable circumstances, you will find you are more resourceful than someone that does not have a positive attitude, thereby helping insure your success.

Henry Ford was known to say “Whether you think you can or think you cannot, you are right.”

This particularly rings true when it comes to keeping a positive attitude.

Beyond Mere Attitude

Actually, calling attitude “mere” may be doing it disservice, as your attitude is the result of quite a number of factors, the least of which may be your conscious actions. However, it is clear that your conscious actions greatly affect your attitude. While you may not think so at first, you CAN affect your attitude through some very powerful tools that are relatively simple and easy to implement.

First, watch yourself and see how you talk. Back in the early or mid ’90s, I attended a series of lectures by Gregg Braden, and one of the thins he brought up during one of the breaks was the concept of positive speech. With positive speech, you make statements that are positive in relation to what you do, want or need, instead of negative ones. This deliberate speech moves you to a more positive way of being that can radically affect your attitude. Yes, they are a form of affirmation. I was particularly interested in a habit he had of “canceling” phrases we use every day. Whenever he would say something that could be interpreted literally, such as “I laughed so hard I nearly died”, he would follow it with “cancel that thought” as soon as he realized it could have been mis-interpreted. If you say “I want this thing” the universe allows you to want, instead of helping you provide it. If, as you watch yourself, you find that you are using a lot of phrases that could be considered negative, try to change how you speak. Every little change you make in turning your speech positive will help improve your attitude, and that will help make you life more positive.

Changing Your Life With a Positive Attitude

As you change your speech, you will find your attitude improves. To further help, try to avoid the habit of complaining about what isn’t right, or isn’t going the way you wish it would. the universe interprets your statements as statements of fact. If you state things in a positive manner as if they have already happened, they are much more likely to happen. On the other hand, if you continually dwell on the negative side, and complain (especially to others you think may share your pain), you only reinforce those negative actions and bring more of them to yourself. A positive attitude begins with positive speech. By avoiding speaking negative things, you can lessen the power you give to the negative and begin to move you energy to the positive. With each negative you no longer express, and each positive thing you do express, the closer you get to a better, more positive attitude, and with it, a more positive life.

I have seen many cases in my own life where the above concepts were proven true and effective, and watched others descend into relative pits of negativity because they were apparently unable to accept that positive speech and actions could make even the smallest change in their situation. I have personally been in more than one situation where I could find little positive to see, and had to be reminded by someone else outside of the direct effect to see even the smallest positive. Once I did find the first positive element, then built one upon another and before long I was out of the negative pit and back with a positive attitude.

The universe operates much as if it were this immense conscious computer, and our speech and attitude were the programming that determined what was to come. How and what we think has a profound effect on our individual future.